In my paper I start off discussing on why the slut double standard exist and this is what I came up with so far. Men
In nearly all societies through time, men have been the ones who are expected to approach and intitate contact,(also note that this is true in nearly all mammals, and most other animals too.) They must compete with one another, risk embarrassment and rejection, and the expenditure of resources (both tangible and social) in hopes of finding a mate. It is their biological role to seek out females, and win their favor for a shot at reproduction. If the man has poor skills or appears to be weak/sickly his chances to mate are greatly diminished. If a man i able to sleep with many women it is a strong indication that he possesses skills and traits that make him a highly desirable and valued individual. A man who is able to sleep with many women is essentially the pinnacle of what men are disgusted to do. Other men recognize this and will applaud that man's achievement even if they feel a bit jealous. Women, too, recognize this and may find themselves attracted to such a man, because if many other women want him he must be doing something right. Women Women operate on qualifying paradigm. Because reproduction for women is time consuming, potentially fatal, and of a limited capacity. It is a woman's biological perogative to be very choosy with whom she is sexual with. Sh e must be sure to secure the best mate she can, or risk the possibility that her children are weak or disadvantaged. When a woman sleeps with many men its a strong indication that her ability to judge quality in mates is non-existent and she does not care about the possible consequences of her actions. More importantly, men who are aware of her habits will be unable to trust her. At a deep instinctual level men cannot stand the idea of having a child with a woman who sleeps around because the paternity of the child would be in question. Loose women are looked down upon with scorn because they cannot be trusted
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The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure Edited By: Tristan Taormino, Celine Parrenas Shimzu, Constance Penley This particular chapter in really stood out to me becuse im an huge advocate for people growing and awakening in to their own Ah-HA moments, and this is what happen to Miss Love. Sinnamon just didnt have 1 Ah-HA moments she had several. WHich really had me on the edge of my seat when readding becuase not only then I learn so much about sexual freedom and that their too is segregation or racism in the porn industry as though it is in any industry. With this reason stated and with own personal experience Love felt the need to clarify that she is an "Black Feminist Pornographer". What i also learned from reading this chapter is that your morals should be judged on ones heart and their actions or what you might think they should/shouldn't wear. Not only did i learn that racism appeared in the pornography indunstry but how deep it goes. I mean this sucker goes as deep as a NAME. Thats right Love talks about how your name is a way to market your ownself in the industry and that "Black and Latina women in porn are very often given names of food, cars, inanimate objects, countries, and spices". She also goes in to say how the name you are given in the industry will allow you or hender you to market yourself outside of porn and to an wider audience. If I ever give an opportunity to ask Miss Sinnamon Love a question it will be " Why keep the name?". Since I don't here is Miss Love being drilled by someone else. How Double Standards WorkExcluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusice By: Julia Serano This chapter speaks so much to me on so many levels. I can run with it personally and say me and my fiance was trully going through some problems when it came to double standards. Or I keep it general and simply say i think its crazy that the drinking age is 21 but an 18 year old can enlist in the military and be trained to be an human weapon. So he can die at 18 for his country but his country wont let him drink alchol till he is 21. Backwards if you ask me.
Anyway in this chapter Serano talks about marked and unmarked. I really love how she breaks it down also. Unmarked traits = " are considered to be natural" " are often viwed aas mundane" "demmed unquestionable" Marked traits = "are often deemed unnatural" " are viwed as erotic" "Deemed questionable" " other people actively notice and pay attention to it." She confirms us all by saying " It is important to emphasize that being marked or unmarked is not something that is inherent in the obnject itself" Color doesn't matter! I'm Colored blind! Can't we all just get along! After listening to the podcast i decided to just take myself completely out the equation and look at it as if it was my personal life that was on the podcast. I have to say one thing. She states there are some people who actually get turned on by getting called Negro and getting whipped by white people (Race Play). She also asked the question how can you get turned on by being "DEGRADING". Wait a minuet stop right here. Even though I agree with her ideology on this being luticrise as a black women myself. I don't think its fair for her to talk about labels while putting labels on someone else. For instance the women that does like to play these plantation scenarios in BDSM they don't think its DEGRADING. so who makes us the JUDGE to say what is and whats not. I feel that we should allow people to have their own definition to their own vocabulary. Your DEGRADING might be my EROTIC and so forth. Just cause I ain't down with it doesn't mean i can say its wrong. Also just cause I know how the world will look at it, and it will be utterly wrong doesn't make me the person to say that. For example of my last comment. By being a black women and to have a white person to whip you, play plantation, and call you a Negro; and you get sexually arouse from that, then you crazy. How can you get arouse from something that your ancestors DIED over literally. Your bloodlines blood was shared , and raped. Thats how the world looks at it. Thats not fair. If that's some people thing thats some people thing. How about this. Maybe they are huge history geeks who love acting out history. HUh- huh.. what about that. Again i am just playing devil advocate. I disagree with the whole bullshit. But To me i believe its bullshit. Should it not happen. I cant say. I believe people should do what makes them happy. On the other hand you shouldnt allow people to put labels on you and being called a Negro or, field slave is a label. By you playing suit your not spiritually growing. Look in MEI am a huge advocate for not allowing yourself to REMAIN a victim. We are all victims of something at one point in our lifes. The real goal is " how not to allow ourselves to remain a victim" or " how not to allow ourselves to follow the label the world gives us as victims". Let me break it down like this. Anybody can recieve an A, but can you keep that A is the ultimate question. Knowing who are is essential in our day of time. The world is full with invisible sticky notes that are filled with adjectives that are waitng to find a home. When are we going to stand up as a union and say enough is enough. Who is to say what weight determines the fat ratios eligibility. Who did we put incharge to tell us what is thin and what is fat. I do not know about you but i never even knew the polls where closed for voting. WE allow ourselves to allow people to put labels on our own selfves. Why can we be people. I can tell you why. We are to mass of a human race to look at us all as equal. If we can group everybody and put a label on the subgroups from the groups we then have mass control over the entire race. Now i know your probably asking by now where the hell does vulnerability falls into all of this( hints the title). Well before i give you that i have to give to give you this; "realization is the biggest key in life" Without realiztion, vulnerability does not exist or co-exist in anything man made. Once we as a people relizes that we are the HEAD MUNCHOS, that we are THE BOSSES, that we are the HBIC's ( head bitch in charge). People will only do what you allow them to do. After relaizing this we can begin pulling off the layers of frobided desires or goals that we had burried. We can now be free. We can now and finally now be intimate with ourselves. Yes I said intimate. I dont mean sex. My definition of intimacy is: In-to-me-I-see. To me vulnerability = intimacy. Being intimate is the core essence in saying I am who I say I am, and I will be who I am meant to be. So no you are not fat and you shouldnt allow the world to call you a name that you didnt give them permision to call you. No you are not a slot and dont allow the world to call you a slut if you did not give them permission to call you that. Being intimate and vulnerable with yourself is knowing who you are and who's you are and knowing every inch or your erotic power that you have intially earned and showing it. So in that case Eff the world. To show you im not biasis I will become vulnerable with myself. I am a women who is engaged to another Women. NO. I am not a lesbian. Other women do not arouse me. I am a being who gender is female, who is in love with another spiritual being as myself in gender! And I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT IT American DadStraightness/Heterosexuality
Christianity Whiteness Able-bodiedness Male Property Holder Now after reading an article from Adeline Koh. Who gives us the SCWAMP ideology and actually breaks it down for us using the very famous and recent popular movie twilight i decided to try to match her or if i can be so blunt, maybe one-up her. I used the animated TV show called American Dad to do m y analyzation. For those who do not know the show, briefly American Dad is an American adult animated sitcom created by Seth MacFarlane. with vigorous punts and jokes aimed at all nationalities and cultures. The show has 5 main characters that the story line is circled around. Stan who is the father is an 40 year old white man who works for the CIA in Langley Fall Virginia and wears nothing but a blue suit. Francine is his dumb blonde (stereotype; yes I know but the author wanted to keep it alive and trust me he does. lol) by price. WHAT i mean is that she is actually brunette but her husband insists for her to keep her hair colored blonde. Francine is a stay at home mom and always wears a pink dress and pink heels to match. Haley is their oldest child who is a liberal hippie and can not stand the fact that her father works for the American Government, which in her eyes is corrupt. To the stereotype of a hippie she smokes weed and wears a colorful bandana and a peace sign on her shirt with baggy jeans and sandals. Steve is the only boy who ironically name begins with an "S", due to the fact he is the only boy so there for he has to be names after his father. Steve is a "nerd" and to that stereotype he can never get any female attention. He is also always trying to receive approval from his father because he is not athletic. Roger is their alien that has moved in with them when Stan rescued him from the CIA. They look and care for him as a pet. It connects directly with SCWAMP from beginning to end. Now let me show you how and get deeper with it. The show hit the SCWAMP ideology on point. it's sad but its reality. Straightness/heterosexuality. Stan and Francine are married and are heterosexual. Stan is a homophobic and in one episode actually teaches his son that being gay is wrong. Haley is in a heterosexual relationship as well and Steve is always looking for a females attention. Christianity The whole family are Christians. They proudly go to church and as the show comes on there is a pictures of Jesus being displayed as they sing the theme song around it. Stan is not open to another religion. The show typically makes awful religous jokes often from christianity. Whiteness EVERY main character in the show is white. The ONLY black character in the show is Steve's school principal. So i guess they thought it will accommodate the equality if they gave the only black character some type of power or authority role. In a sense this would have worked if not ever time you see the Principal he's not high or talking about his money problems, or yelling at the students, or to make things worse; talking about his past which he was incarcerated. They typically make racist show against blacks only. Steve does have an Asian friend name Toshi who he hangs out with, but he does not speak any English. Even though he understands it very well when the friends are in dialogue. Toshi responds only in Chinese, which Stan and Steve typically make fun of. Able-bodiedness Steve has a an overweight friend who name is Barry, who is not in the main cast. Barry is very slow because his parents have him on medication that makes him talk slower than the other cast and act as though common sense was a mystery. The show allows Stan and Francine along with their kids appear to be in perfect shape. Stan is buff and muscular and his wife Francine and kids are very petite. Male Stan always throws around that he is the man and is always right. HE has a huge ego which he is not scared to show or throw around. Francine is very submissive to her husband. She does what he says when he says it. She is the stay at home mom. So if the show comes on and its morning she is fixing plates or cooking and always serves her husband first then her son. Stan is the breadwinner of the family who is very arrogant and sexist. He looks and does take his wife and daughter for granted on numerous episodes. Property Holder To sum it all up, The family lives in a 4 story house. |